Say No – But with Compassion!
I know what you are thinking probably, am I out of my mind? How can we reject someone with love!
Well, friends relax nothing is impossible in this world.
When someone tries to win our affection and does cute things for us. It’s magic but what if you don’t like that person.
Rejecting someone is not easy because that can have so many implications. It might ruin someone’s long friendship and can make further communication uncomfortable. He/she might be among your best buddy or your co- worker, who everyday sits next to you.
So, here are some cushy- mushy ways to say a No.
Tell them in Private: Saying a ‘No’ doesn’t mean insulting someone. If he/ she are continuously asking you for a date and you are bit frustrated about it then also, I will suggest telling them about your feelings in private is a good idea.
Go out for a coffee: A lot can happen over a coffee true! If you people are friends go out to a casual hang out. Have a chilled out conversation. After all you don’t want to ruin your friendship.
Drop a text: Technology is a boon in this era because nobody likes to get rejected in public or in front of his/ her peer circle. So, rather saying no in front of others, you can simply leave a text by saying ‘You are a very nice person. I just don’t see you in that way. I’m sure there is someone special just for you’, or just ‘Sorry’ I don’t see you like that or simply ‘No thanks’.
Don’t play with feelings: Deep down you know that you don’t have a future with that person then please don’t give them false hope. At least they would grow in their life. Don’t accept gifts and date proposals either from them.
Be their friends on social networking website: There is no harm in being friends on social sites. Of course, your admirer has the right to like your pictures and status. Blocking them on websites hurts them badly.
Gift them handmade card “Just be Friends”: Probably this would hurt them less because then you are not being rude to them.
Give them space to put across their feelings: Nobody will applaud you if you reject him/ her. So, if they feel bad about it and want to communicate it you then let them do it. This would help you to get rid of further grudges.
Don’t involve friends: It just between you and your admirer so, please don’t involve your friends. Behave normal and stay happy.
If someone admires you then you are lucky and respecting other person’s feeling is very important. Nobody wants to get rejected so, before saying it in a bitter way or making it soul – crushing try to put yourself in that person’s shoes and then go ahead.
