Forgiveness: An attribute of a strong human being

Forgiveness: An attribute of a strong human being

Learning an art is not a difficult process. We can learn how to paint, sing or write by continuous practice but learning the, ‘Art of Forgiveness’ is not that easy. Anger is one of the most damaging human emotions. The feeling of been cheated upon, betrayed or insulted can quickly harden into bitterness if we don’t forgive and move on. Sometimes, people feel that by forgetting about the incident that hurt them or letting go off the negativity associated with them might mean pushing down your anger that may in future burst like a volcano. Hence it is important to forgive rather than just forgetting.

“Anger makes you smaller while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are”- Cherie Carter Scott said.

Holding the anger empowers us and often we feel that if we forgive the person then probably we have accepted the actions of the personwho has hurt us so deeply as justified actions. However, sticking to a nasty incident is like drinking a slow poison which would have long time effects and as a result hampers your future growth in life.

Art of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a spiritual process that helps us extract the lost beauty from the painful moments. If anger resides and claims space in our hearts, then like a magnet it would pull all negativity towards you.

“Two years ago I had a friend, who liked me, but I didn’t have any feelings for him. When he asked me and I said no then just to take revenge he started tarnishing my image. He spread rumors that I am characterless and have multiple relationships. I was really angry and also shattered because of the incident. Eventually he came to apologize but I didn’t forgive him. I am not that strong.”, says Kamya Irani

Why we should practice the art of forgiveness?

People often question why should they forgive someone who has left them shattered and shaken them up inside? Perhaps they should practice forgiveness because it relieves, revives and rejuvenates life and channelizes one’s energy in the right direction.

Some techniques that can help practice forgiveness are:

• Meditation: Whenever you feel stressed out due to the particular incident that had crushed you or a person who had hurt you, and you are filled with the emotion and anger just mediate and take long breaths.

• Process: Before forgetting these incidents, deeply analyze them. Try to forgive the person. If you don’t have any further contact with him/her let it be, you don’t need to approach them again but for that particular incident forgive him/her.

It is a attribute of strong

• Give a second chance: Give a second chance to the person who has hurt you. It is difficult but if you do that you will be free from the negativity festering inside you.

• Communicate your anger: It is one of the worst feelings when you are not able to reveal that you are angry and are forced to keep it inside.Perhaps communicating your feelings to other person then there are high chances that you would forgive them.

• Be the bigger person: If you forgive someone then you are the stronger person because everybody is not able to do that.

•Think about the people who at some point of time forgave you: At some point of time you surely made mistakes so just think of them who forgave you like your mother for instance. You will get the strength to forgive.

What happens when we don’t forgive others?

Yes, it is true that forgiving someone needs lot of strength but if we are incapable of forgiving it has its own implications. We are unhappy, we feel alone and alienated from others. We are not able to receive what we actually want to because all the time we are just surrounded by the thoughts of the negative experiences. Maintaining a forgiving lifestyle means living a life which is free and complete in itself. A life which is not free is an ideal seed ground for depression.

The failure to forgive leads to lower strength of the immune system and the person is more prone to illnesses. Not only this, it also affects the efficiency of the person. Some people really want to be generous and forgiving towards others but for that it is important to confront our pain.Most of us have wounds that are so profound, that to heal them you need a long time. Progress towards the art would take years. Some instances leave scars that take time to heal and for your own sake you should try to forgive.Forgiveness is the characteristic of a strong person. Forgiveness and strength travel together, everyone can’t reach the ideal position but an attempt towards it can solve your problem to a large extent.