Getting older? Here’s how you can spice up your relationship in 40s
Spice up your relationship and sex life to love and cherish each other through the years.
Losing the spark in a long-term relationship is not a new thing and is often inevitable.
What is rare in today’s world is that couples after 20 or 30 years of being together or even a couple of years, for that matter still feel the same excitement and sexual passion that was there at the beginning of their relationship.
And, now we know the secret.
Here’s how…
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BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER
You need to appreciate your and your partner’s body and treat each other well. Good sex will require both tension and trust, and the trust comes from treating each other as the best person in the whole world.
BE NAUGHTY WITH EACH OTHER
Make out like a teenager and try something new like reading and watching erotica together or whatever pleases you the most. You can talk dirty, stroke the palm of each other’s hands at the movies, and kiss at the traffic lights to make young people squirm.
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STAY PHYSICALLY CONNECTED
Lie down together even if to have that householder talk as bodies lying together inevitably get other ideas even if you are talking about bills, shopping, or the new extension. Call your partner unexpectedly just to say how much you love them and were thinking about them and cannot wait to kiss them all over.
SLEEP NAKED
When you go to bed, always try to sleep naked together even if you are not having sex. Just hold your partner or snuggle or cuddle so your bodies can touch and speak.
DON’T LOOK FOR A PLACE
While making love, try it on sofas, or up against doors, on a balcony, on a beach, against a tree, in a swimming pool at night, or even in the bathroom, or on the floor in the living. Beds are always comfy, but quick, surprising, or spontaneous sex is recommended by experts.
DON’T EXPECT ANYTHING
You don’t have to expect anything in return or plan for a great sexual event. Somehow, and sometimes, sex does not respond well to programming. Agree to lie down on the couch together, or on the bed, or in front of the fire, and let whatever happens, happen.
TALK ABOUT IT
Talking and sharing are is what needed at this moment. What you like, what you don’t like, and your dirty fantasies can be shared now because now is the time to complete and experience those fantasies you have.
JUST DON’T KILL THE MOOD
Don’t use office problems, bills, payments, friends, kids or work stress, or anything which annoys your partner during such moments or as an excuse for not having sex. Try to lie in each other’s arms and talk about whatever ails you until you feel your bodies talking to each other. Even if you don’t want to have sex, just lie in each other’s arms as much as you can.
TRAVEL SEPARATELY TO MEET
Having a weekend away and spending some together like meeting up at a hotel in another city is one of the sexiest things you can do ever. Or if possible, sneak away from work and meet up as it feels illicit and creates just the right degree of tension.
LET SEX BE WHATEVER IT IS FOR THAT TIME
Older couples who still touch, kiss, snuggle and make love create an erotic environment and are the complete package. Sex can be an expression of love like maybe it is sometimes to say sorry, or just to please, perhaps often, sex is just sex. Think about it like food, it is often totally delicious; at other times, just a good meal, and, on occasion, a takeaway.
EXERCISE
Just a gentle walk in your garden or on the street near to your place can be enough to release stress and negative thoughts to promote feelings of love and care, according to the experts. There is no need to join a gym, as it’s just about simple things like taking a walk instead of getting the bus.
LOVE YOUR BODY AND YOUR PARTNER’S
Experts say accepting what shape your body is and whatever it has been through is a key step. By your mid-late-40s, you’ve been through a lot in your life and you need to be in awe of your body and what it has achieved. And if possible, you should love every inch of your skin.
REMINISCE
Recreate your favourite dates at home or outside and give your partner a surprise. Talking about what you used to do sexually with your partner is sometimes hugely helpful. You can both talk about how the old ‘you’ or the old ‘us’ were awesome in bed and if you’re in a relationship, you are easing yourself into changing your sex life now.
SEEK COUNSELLING
For older men and women, expert advice can do the trick without any medications and can also help in increasing your desire for sex and your ability to become aroused.
SEX TOYS
Introducing a sex toy into the bedroom or in your sex life can be wild, adventurous, and great for women who are single or in a relationship. These are the stuff that lovers buy to make them feel good and for the fun. But it really helps when you use it with your partner because such toys make things a bit more creative and imaginative.
MAKE LOVE EVERY DAY
Good lovers make sensuality part of their ongoing life even if they are not in a mood. They will do it or at least co-operate with their partner to bring back the charm. Making love doesn’t always have to be about intercourse making foreplay part of your daily routine helps a lot and brings you closer than ever. You can send flirty or sexy texts, or for instance, you can just be more open and inquisitive about sex in your day-to-day life to boost your sex appeal.
FLIRTING
You can give compliments to your partner, flirt with them time and again, and if it’s necessary, you can always do the role-play or create an affair,” recommends relationship experts. Even multiple married couples find this very sexy.
FIND NEW HOBBIES
Get out of your comfort zone and rut and join a book club or go to live music events or try to start meeting more new people and make friends together to enrich your life. It always feels extremely good when things are done with people we love.
